What your sexual fantasies say about you!

Sex sells! And I can make clickbait titles as well as the next man!

So, you want me to reach into your bonce and fiddle around with what tickles your libido? Well you’ll have to take a number and get in line! (ho-ho-ho I can keep this up all day, yay! Sex jokes!)

Okayokayokay, in all seriousness. Sex being the taboo subject it is in polite society, people generally don’t talk about their sexual fantasies, or if they do it’s sort of “approved” kinks, “I’d love a threesome. I’d love to be tied down. I’d love to watch a porno with you.” Not to say this stuff isn’t kinky, or even taboo in its way, but it’s stuff people are expected to say when they reveal their kinky secrets, because even the taboo has little social scripts we all follow.

So let me tell you a little bit about “Intrusive thoughts.” We all have them, it’s the part of your brain that says ridiculous things that you would never act on but you can’t help thinking them. Like “I could steal that baby carriage now and nobody would notice!” or “I bet I could push him and he’s fall down that escalator backwards, it would be so funny!” Weird borderline psychopath thoughts that we would never do! But for some reason our brain pokes them into our heads. Of course we’d never act on them otherwise society would collapse pretty fast, but we also don’t really talk about it because it’s VERY socially unacceptable to admit you just considered the possibility that you could totally spit on that guy from up here and nobody would find out!

Now let’s talk about reverse psychology, something I am sure you’re all familiar with. There is no greater lure then the forbidden and the guaranteed way of making somebody want something is to tell them they can’t have it.

So what does this mean in the context of sexual fantasies? Well, often in the grip of raging libido’s humans may have odd little intrusive thoughts, stuff that normally may repulse or disgust them all of a sudden pops into their heads, stuff that they’d never consider acting out but is entertained as a fantasy because it’s been conjured up by your intrusive thoughts and paraded around by the part of your brain that craves the forbidden. An example would be a lot of women admit to liking lesbian pornography, despite actually being turned off by the idea of being with another woman. It’s the lure of the forbidden and the vicarious enjoyment of a fantasy without needing it to be a reality.

So what do your fantasies say about you? Well… nothing. Seriously they say nothing. Just because it’s popped into your head it doesn’t make you a pervert, well no more than anyone else. We honestly can’t help what our primal brains throw at us. We all have fantasies of the sexual and non-sexual kind but very rarely do people act on them (as demonstrated by the lack of workplace homicidal rampages). So really all your fantasies say about you is “you like fantasies”. Boring I know, but not all psychology can be sensational headline grabbing bullshit… except maybe the title of this entry.

Fantasies are mostly harmless, and sadly the tiny, tiny number of people who indulge these fantasies are the ones who get paraded around as examples of why THOUGHTS ARE DANGEROUS CITIZEN! CRIMETHINK! REPORT TO THE MINISTRY OF TRUTH FOR APPROVED THOUGHT PATTERNS! But honestly? Just because somebody used their fantasies as fuel for psychosis, doesn’t mean that fantasies themselves are dangerous, any more then owning a gun is.