So I stumbled across this
article, admittedly taking advice from a rag like “Vice” is like getting your counselling
and therapy by reading your local horoscope. But sadly this media has quite the
wide audience, so I feel like I need to address this, in the same way a
biohazard team may “address” an explosion in a septic tank.
Of course this advice is just
for men, it’s not like women would ever be mean to one another or require any
kind of social correction.
1.
Before
explaining something to a woman, ask yourself if she may already understand.
She may know more about it then you do.
I’m not in the habit of second
guessing my peers, if they already know something they are free to tell me, or
switch off. If somebody’s talking about an area I am familiar with I listen,
because there is always the outside chance I’ll learn an interesting titbit
that I was otherwise ignorant of, only a fool believes they have nothing new to
learn, and only an arrogant prick assumes that people “beneath them” have
nothing more to teach them.
2.
Related:
never ever try to explain feminism to women.
Oh gosh… really? So I shouldn’t
bother trying to correct or confront a TERF? I shouldn’t feel a right to speak
out against #killallmen? I should trust that matching chromosomes gives you the
right and authority over me to speak for the champions of equality and never
question your interpretation of it… I’d say that this attitude is pretty
sexist, but that may be critical of your interpretation of feminism, so I guess
I can’t.
3.
Trans
women are women. Repeat that until you perish.
Some Trans women actually prefer
to be identified as “Trans women” rather than women, so maybe don’t speak over
them hmm? Also I would say that you need to clean house a bit on this as while
there are transphobic guys out there, they don’t have an ideology to rally
behind like Trans Exclusionary Radical FEMINISTS do.
4.
RESPECT
PEOPLE’S PRONOUNS. It’s not hard.
Getting a pronoun wrong is not
always a sign of disrespect, it’s simply human error and failing, especially if
you’ve known a person pre-transition as you have to unlearn a powerful habit. Presuming
malice says more about you then it does about the person making that mistake.
Also; people can have Him/Her/They and stick with it, if you change your
pronoun on an hourly basis you have no right to get mad at people who “get it
wrong” and if you make some stupid pronoun up and insist everyone use it you
need to go home and re-think your life decisions.
5.
Remember
that fat women exist and aren’t all trying to get thin, treat them with
respect.
Sure thing, stay out of my
face and I’ll stay out of yours. No worries. However you lose your right to
complain about your poor health if you refuse to do anything to address it.
6.
In
fact never comment on a woman’s body.
Men are not nearly as critical
of women as women are to one another, but I guess that doesn’t fit your
narrative.
7.
Be
kind to women in customer service positions. Tip them extra. (But not in a
creepy way).
I have to resist the urge to start
most of these responses with “WTF?!”, but seriously, you should be nice to
EVRERYONE in customer service, women aren’t some special first class citizens
that deserve more praise and more money by virtue of existence! Do you even
know what “Equality” means?!
8.
Trust
women. When they teach you something don’t feel the need to go and check for
yourself. And especially don’t google it
in front of them.
For real? You want somebodies
voice to be beyond reproach based purely on their chromosomes. Do you have any
idea how insane you sound right now? Let’s try “Women: When a man speaks, shut
up and listen, don’t second guess him, don’t think for yourself.” Sounds crazy
right? That’s you… that’s what you sound like.
9.
Don’t
maintain a double standard for … anything, ever.
The entire premise of 100
things to “make women’s lives easier” IS A DOUBLE STANDARD you festering sack
of donkey ejaculate! You are literally dictating not only a superior standard
for people based purely on their status as women, but also dictating how men
can and cannot think/behave/live!
Can you believe there are 92
more of these things?! I’m going to take your advice number 8 and stop right
here before I have an aneurism. Women are not wonderful perfect star-children,
neither are they sinister manipulative hell-beasts. They’re people, like you,
like me, like everyone. They “deserve” the same level of respect and
consideration EVERYONE gets until they prove they deserve more, or less. THAT
is equality. But I guess that wouldn’t have been nearly as click-baity advice
now would it.
